Fathers And Homeschooling: Teach What You Know : Eco Child’s Play

Fathers And Homeschooling: Teach What You Know

Written by Derek Markham

Published on July 14th, 2008

Posted in Dads

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When we first began our oldest daughter’s homeschool education, we thought that we needed to have a full curriculum and study guides and other “teaching” materials before we could really “teach” her at home.

We borrowed a friend’s homeschool curriculum and started exploring what that meant. The materials consisted of teaching guides for different subjects (math, english, science, history), instructions for games that inspired cooperation, materials lists, workbooks, and so on. School stuff, right? You need school stuff to teach, right?

To a non-teacher like myself, it was daunting to look at this pile of material and think that we would need to read ahead, prepare every lesson, and to have to actually know all of this stuff. And only then we could we teach it to our kids.

I was way off base.

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When my youngest was learning to walk, I thought to myself, “It’s a good thing that we don’t have to actually teach a child to walk or talk or eat, because it would take ten times as long…” First our children start to move around and grasp toys and hair, and then they scoot, they crawl, they stand up, and then they walk, without any lessons from us. Sure, we help them, and we speak to them, but we don’t actually teach them. Walking is a pretty advanced skill. Learning a language is difficult for anybody, but within a couple of years, our babies are having full conversations and comprehending almost everything we say; they’re walking and talking at the same time!

So school is always in.

Even if you don’t “home school”, you home school. Every activity is an educational opportunity. Our kids are always learning about the world, so the question is, what information are we, as their parents, putting in front of them? What values and principles do we share with them when they ask us questions?

We don’t need to know all of the answers; in fact, not knowing the answers, but helping our kids to find them, is a great education for parents. We’re still learning too, right? We raid the library regularly, and clear out whole sections of shelves. They cut us off when we tried to check out over 100 books…

I teach my daughters what I know, and what I love, by taking the time to slow down and do “projects” with them. I talk to them like little people, not little kids. I explain ideas by relating the concept to a real-world situation.

I’m a hands-on kind of guy, so we learn by doing.

Fathers raising daughters might one day find the dolls in the corner and all of the screws out of the kitchen cabinets. My oldest requested tools for one birthday, and a pocket multi-tool for another. All of a sudden I’m cool! She thinks I can fix or build anything with some spare parts and a tool box. Don’t tell her the truth, she’ll wise up soon enough.

Over the last few years, we have:

Built a sled together from wood scavenged from a cabinet shop, downhill skis from a thrift store, free paint from the re-use center at the landfill, and deck screws from a fence project. It was a great lesson on measuring and laying out pieces and then just eyeballing it instead of trying to be perfectly precise. The sled can hold several adults (I broke it in on a men’s winter camping trip), and it’s fast! The beta version will be higher off the ground (for deep snow), and have a brake… See, we’re learning.
Made my daughter’s first knife. I ordered a small blade from a knife dealer online, and we glued up small scraps of wood that we scavenged (walnut, juniper, and lacewood) for the handle. She came up with the design, and I helped her cut the pieces and glue them up, and I drilled out the handle for the blade. I then supervised her as she shaped it on my table sander, and I did a little detailing and sharpening at the end. We learned that for a kid’s knife, stainless steel is the way to go, as the high-carbon steel that we got quickly got discolored from improper care (stored without drying completely).
Made a sheath for her knife from scrap leather. I found a pattern online and helped her cut out the pieces and assemble it. We learned to cut our pattern bigger than needed, and then trim it as we fitted it. You can always cut more off, but you can’t add to it if it’s too small. My daughter is really proud of the knife and sheath she made, and puts it on her belt first thing when camping.
Constructed a doll cradle for her little sister (2 at the time) from scrap wood and drywall screws. She came up with the design and I did the engineering and managed the workflow (Hah! I love saying that!). She made all of the measurements herself, and this was the first time she used the circular saw and drill. I keep a hand and an eye on the action, but she pulls the trigger and guides the tool. We’ve cut by hand as well, and we now know that we need a sharp crosscut saw for cuts across the grain and a sharp rip saw for cutting with the grain. And a smooth action with the arm.
Carved wooden spoons and peanut butter spreaders from tree limbs we found while camping. Last year was also the first time she built a fire by herself (age 9), from start to finish, and kept it fed until bedtime.
Learned about local medicinal and edible wild plants, learned the names of most of the common trees in town, and identified edible “weeds” in our yard.

You get the idea.

You probably have a long list of teachable skills already. We don’t necessarily need a curriculum to follow or a teaching degree or study guide in order to home school our kids.

We just have to do what we love and then share that excitement with them. They’ll pick it up and run with it, leaving us in the dust, applauding.