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By: Crimson Wife

Crimson Wife — Sat, 23 May 2009 10:26:12 +0000

I’ve heard good things about the book “How You Are Changing” by Jane Graver for discussing puberty & sex from a Christian POV.

4th grade seems awfully soon IMHO for a school to be teaching sex ed. When I was going through, it was in 6th grade.

By: Jamie Ervin

Jamie Ervin — Thu, 21 May 2009 00:02:42 +0000

@DodiM and Jessica… we did get the American Girl Book, but we are skipping the tampon section at this point, because we just aren’t there yet. However, the book is good at covering many aspects of growing up including cleanliness, grooming and puberty. I highly recommend that every parent previews any books they will be using with their children and read them together… don’t just buy a book and say, “here you go!”. Open communication is key to puberty and everything that comes after!

We also have The Wonderful Way Babies are Made (Larry Christenson, available on Amazon), which covers S-E-X from a Biblical perspective and has simpler explanations on one side of each page for the younger set… so it grows with your child.

I’m definitely NOT okay with the school system teaching my child about puberty (among other things), so I’m bringing it home!

By: Jessica Gottlieb

Jessica Gottlieb — Tue, 19 May 2009 23:38:36 +0000

@DodiM DO NOT buy the american girl book for your 9 year old. There is a very graphic cartoon showing girls how to insert a tampon. From the child you are describing that is NOT an appropriate book for your home.

By: flowers

flowers — Tue, 19 May 2009 19:50:20 +0000

My mom was awkward about it and I think that’s what makes me determined not to me. I loved going to my girlfriends houses where we could openly talk about boys, first kisses, first bras and periods.

I only have boys but we are very open and it started with ourselves. Being comfortable with my own body and answering all the questions my oldest asks. He’s only four, but he was at his brothers birth and has watched countless videos.

That’s great that you and your daughter got to talk.

Angela…that’s funny about your son. :-0

By: DodiM

DodiM — Tue, 19 May 2009 16:52:41 +0000

I hear the American Girl book on the subject is also good. I’m going to look up Changes right now.

I have a 9 year old who I am dreading the “monthly period” chat with. She practically faints every time she has a papercut – how on earth do I explain what I go through each month without her going in to shock? (I plan to have a camera near me so I can capture the look on her face.)

By: Shannan

Shannan — Tue, 19 May 2009 16:46:03 +0000

There’s a book I got to prepare myself for raising my son. I’ve read up to the age he is… um, he’s still just a baby. But, I think it gives you things to think about and discuss with your partner about how you want to raise your child. It prepares you for the “talk.” And, really, it talks about starting from the beginning… when your child is born.

From Diapers to Dating: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children, Second Edition (Paperback)
by Debra W. Haffner (Author)

By: Jessica Gottlieb

Jessica Gottlieb — Tue, 19 May 2009 16:03:58 +0000

Angela, I know the book. It’s “Where Did I Come From” which my mother bought for me (853 years ago).

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By: Angela Shortt

Angela Shortt — Tue, 19 May 2009 07:37:45 +0000

I was determined to make my daughters’ transition into puberty much easier than the overly dramatic “now you can get pregnant” talk that my mother gave me. (shudder) Not a good memory.

I had a book, but it wasn’t “Changes”. I started out with a book about sex when my kids were in pre-school. This was a cute, brightly illustrated picture book featuring a chubby, middle aged couple who were in love, made love and were shown naked in some of the pages. The book used anatomically correct names for the reproductive parts. No “peter” or “wee wee” or “roses” or “honeypot” stuff.

For the life of me, I can’t remember the name of the book. I don’t even know what happened to it. Probably tossed it out during one of my moves.

Anyway, reading that book aloud to my daughters (and my son) made the conversations about sex a lot less stressful. They asked questions and I answered them as succinctly as possible. Not that it always went smoothly. Like when my son asked me about how to get a particularly attractive girl to go to bed with him. He was in college on the other side of the country, but still….