Vaccinating Baby: One Mom’s Struggle with Deciding What’s Right For her Baby
Does every mom struggle as much as I do with signing up to have the doctor stick their baby with a needle full of potentially harmful ingredients that makes baby scream with teary eyes that say “why are you doing this to me” followed by two days of fever?
OK, maybe I’m a wimp, but, when I read books like Dr. Sears’s The Vaccine Book and articles like “Vaccine Debate” in Mothering Magazine this month, I feel rather vindicated for being very cautious about vaccinating my little one year old girl, Emerson.
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Luckily, my husband is equally wimpy and cautious about vaccinating so it’s one less child-raising subject we have to argue about. We struggle with wanting to do what’s right for the broader community-feeling we should vaccinate our baby so that we’re not relying on other, less wimpy, parents to vaccinate their kids so that our kid has less chance of getting sick (though the above-mentioned “Vaccine Debate” article makes some good arguments against this line of thinking).
We struggle with whether we want to, by not vaccinating, knowingly put our child at risk of catching a potentially deadly disease versus believing in the natural process of the immune system of our thriving child. We struggle with the fact that vaccines, some of which include controversial ingredients, are for diseases that are non-existent or extremely rare in the US. Why expose our daughter’s immature immune system to potentially harmful substances for a virtually no-risk disease?
After reading Sears’ The Vaccine Book, and doing our own research online, we have acquired some knowledge about the ingredients in and risks of each vaccine the CDC recommends versus the risk of each disease itself. We learned from Sears and many other sources that, the truth is, we don’t know the real short- and long-term impact of vaccines on our children because it is impossible to do a bona fide study on them due to the ethical impossibility of creating a vaccine-free control group to compare with vaccinated youngsters.
We’ve learned that some diseases, like diphtheria, are so rare in the U.S. that most doctors trained within the last 20 years wouldn’t recognize their symptoms. We’ve also learned that parents of children with autoimmune disease might want to think twice before giving their babies controversial shots like MMR that have been linked to autoimmune disorders (as someone who suffers from a number of autoimmune disorders, I can’t help but wonder whether shots I had as a child might have played a role in starting all my troubles).
Lastly, and most concerning to me, is what we’ve learned about the amount of aluminum going into babies’ bodies with each CDC-recommended shot series. Dr. Sears wrote a great article on his concerns about aluminum titled “Is Aluminum the new Thermisal?” (Thermisal being now-banned mercury) that is worth a read. In it, Sears mentions, after piecing together several rather dismal studies on aluminum intake, that babies are receiving amounts of aluminum in the recommended CDC shot schedule that far exceed what we believe is safe for humans, to the tune of up to 62 times what the FDA recommends. The problem is that, once again, no one seems to be studying the effects of aluminum on our babies bodies over time and the various government agencies, who you would think look out for citizens’ interests, don’t seem to be asking the right questions or talking to one another.
Further, the article “Vaccine Debate” in Mothering Magazine addresses some of my concerns about putting other kids at risk by not fully vaccinating my own by the CDC’s schedule. The article discusses the fact that “good” vaccines have a rate of effectiveness of 90-98 percent and, therefore, the very small percentage of vaccinated children who might contract a disease if exposed to it would have only a mild case of the disease, assuming they had some immune response to the vaccine.
As a mother of a precious little being, I’m not willing to blindly do what the CDC or any doctor says without solid information that what they are recommending has been proven safe and effective. I would argue, based on what I’ve read, that the CDC’s recommended vaccination schedule-and the vaccines themselves-do not fall into the “proven safe and effective” category. I was happy to learn today reading Dr. Sear’s blog, that, finally, the government and CDC are planning to do research on the safety and effectiveness of vaccines. I will anxiously await the information they provide.
Vaccination is a precarious subject to blog about given the heated opinions on either side of the fence (I look forward to the comments I might get on this post). For what it’s worth, here is how my husband and I, after all of our research and hours of conversation with our open-minded pediatrician (who recommended The Vaccine Book to us), have decided to approach our baby’s vaccinations:
1. We decided on criteria that helped us decide what shots made sense to move forward with in our baby’s first year.
The Vaccine Book has an extremely helpful summary chart (pg 248) that lays out for each vaccine whether the disease is common or severe, whether the shot contains aluminum, whether the chemical content of the shot is high, whether it uses human or animal tissues (controversial ingredients), whether it has a long list of side effects, has a higher risk of severe side effects, and whether world travel is a higher risk than exposure in the U.S. Our criteria, partly based on this chart was, if the disease is common, severe/deadly, and if the shot’s ingredients were relatively benign, and the higher risk of severe side effects from the shot low, giving our daughter the shot was a no-brainer. The shots that met this criteria were DTaP, HIB, and PC. Unfortunately, our daughter had a severe reaction to DTaP, so we are now postponing DTaP indefinitely and sticking just with HIB and PC in the short term.
2. We are having our pediatrician give our baby shots on a slower schedule than the CDC recommends to allow her body to process less aluminum and other nasty ingredients each time, and to enable us to more easily differentiate which shot might be causing a reaction.
It doesn’t make sense to my husband and I to give our baby potentially dangerous amounts of aluminum every two months. It also doesn’t make sense to pummel her little body with a cocktail of various shots all at once so that, if she has a reaction, we can’t tell which shot is causing it. Therefore, we are following Dr. Sears’s alternative vaccination schedule (essentially one shot per month), sans a few shots we’re postponing beyond his alternative schedule or eliminating altogether.
3. We will not give our daughter shots for diseases that are relatively benign or where the risk of having a severe reaction to the shot could be higher than the risks of having the disease itself.
We plan to skip chickenpox because we don’t fear the disease, and, from what we’ve learned, getting chicken pox gives a person better immunity for life than getting the chickenpox shot which apparently wears off by adulthood, leaving the person at greater risk of catching a severe case of the disease as an adult (chickenpox can be much worse as an adult than as a child). Further, pre-teens can get a test to see if they’ve been exposed to the disease and, if they haven’t, parents can choose to give them the shot then to avoid a more severe case of chicken pox as an adolescent/adult. So, bring on the chickenpox party! We are contemplating skipping MMR because our daughter may have some inherited autoimmune disorders and some experts recommend that parents of children with autoimmune issues think twice about this shot. MMR is also full of controversial ingredients, has a relatively high likelihood of causing a severe reaction (compared to other shots), and the diseases are usually not severe, therefore, we’re not overly concerned about our daughter catching them. Several studies show that getting measles, like chickenpox, not only strengthens the overall immune system, it provides life-long immunity to the disease. We may choose to simply postpone MMR until our daughter’s immune system is a little more mature. With further research, we’ll decide.
4. We are postponing shots for diseases that exist only in other countries for when we travel to those countries-or until we start to see a rise in incidences of that disease in the U.S.
Given that we don’t plan to travel internationally anytime soon, we’d prefer to wait on certain vaccines (e.g Polio) until we do have plans to travel to countries in which the disease is still an issue (just like getting a yellow fever vaccine to go to Africa) and our daughter’s immune system is more mature. Similarly, if a disease we are concerned about begins to propulgate in the U.S. we’ll have Emerson get the shot.
These decisions have not come to us lightly. We are well aware of the good vaccines have done in this country and around the world. We know that parents in some countries would give anything to be able to vaccinate their child against a disease like Polio. That said, we are choosing to understand as best we can the risk our daughter faces today, in our community, in this country (for now) and making what we think are a series of educated decisions regarding vaccinations.
I would like to hear from others what their approach is to vaccinating their children. I think with open dialogue, we can all learn from one another and, perhaps put some collective pressure on the government and CDC to do thorough research on the many unknowns of vaccinations to ensure that what we’re giving our children is safe and effective.









I am not yet a mother, but hope to be some day. I work with Early Childhood Intervention, and often find myself reading all these articles etc related to many things that are thought to affect a child’s development, including vaccines. I struggle with the decision and I don’t even have a child yet! Like you said, there’s the thought of “do I trust my gut and alter the vaccines and schedule, and ‘put the population’ at risk, or do I just ‘do it, it’s what you’re told to do!” You feel like you have the whole world’s health in your hands sometimes, when if you think about it, if these vaccines are what they are advertised as, then vaccinated children should not be at risk for the diseases, if your child somehow gets them… Either way, long story short, I want to thank you for posting because you are showing that there are options available besides “vaccinate or not.” It makes me feel like I do have some say, without having to do one extreme or the other. Thank you
This was very well written and informative. i thank you from the bottom of my heart to hear your reasons and how you cam e to them.
You are doing almost exactly what I have done (and am still doing) with my kids. It did not make sense to me to give them all of these shots at once. It also did not make sense to me to give them shots that I saw as completely unnecessary (chicken pox). I am running into issues regarding school and the kids being partially vaccinated. I am determined to stand my ground, though. It is gut wrenching and mentally draining to make these decisions. I am firm in that whatever I do decide, I am doing the best I can for my kids.
Thank you for such a great article, it is nice to know that I am not alone- the parents I know either fully vaccinate on schedule or do not vaccinate at all. There is a middle ground.
This is a well written post and I appreciate it. My husband and I have also discussed these same issues and have had to decide if we are ready to go to jail if something happens here - like in maryland: Saying No to Vaccines
I think that it is great that you are doing all this research. From your post though, it sounds like you are basing ALL of your decisions on the Dr. Sears book. I don’t understand why so many parents trust someone like Dr. Sears, a doctor, but also a commercial brand if you look at his website and annual revenues. He makes money selling his vaccine advice to doubtful parents. His vaccine advice is not based on scientific studies. There are no studies to support that what you have chosen based on his schedule is better or safer for your child. He is profiting on parents fears.
You mention that there are many diseases like polio that are not common in the US anymore therefore you’ll not vaccinate your child for these diseases. Please don’t forget that the reason the diseases are not common in the US is because of successful vaccination programs. If more and more parents make the same decisions you do, a resurgence of all of these diseases is possible and likely. There is even a part in the Dr. Sears book where he recommends not sharing your delayed vaccine schedule with your neighbors because you will thin out herd immunity even more. Dr. Sears’ advice is actually very harmful in the big scheme of things, especially since the whole aluminum thing he brings up is just speculation. Aluminum has been used in vaccines as an adjuvant since for about 70 years. We would have detected a problem if there was one by now. Aluminum is one of the most common elements on our planet and babies get more from breast milk or formula than all vaccines combined…. Anyway, my point is to fully protect your children with all recommended vaccines. Yes, there is a risk involved, but the risk of disease is greater than the risk of vaccine side effects.
I have to agree with Carol…people seem to forget that those deadly diseases are not so common because of successful vaccines. There are more and more cases of measles showing up because parents believe this disease doesn´t exist anymore but the more children don´t get vaccinated the more you will here about those diseases everyone has forgotten about. I think vaccines are important but you don´t have to pump them into those tiny bodies without thinking about it. My son got all the recommended vaccines acept MMR, chickenpox and Hepatitis A. I think chickenpox is the only one that is absolutely unnecessary because it is a normal disease children get. Since my son doesn´t go to daycare and is too yooung for pre-school we decided to put off the MMR vaccine until he is a little older. Hepatitis A is important if you travel to South America which we are not planning to do right now but he will receive this one before he goes to school. As you can see I believe in vaccinating your children just at a slower pace. I thought about what to for a long time and I am scared of side affects as well but I hope once my son is older and his little body is stronger those vaccines won´t bother him too much and protect him from getting him or other children sick.
Carol, Gertie— until it happens to a child of yours, don’t knock people for thinking things through. My daughter is profoundly handicapped due to the DTP vaccine in the mid 90’s. If someone had told me then that she had less of a chance of getting whooping cough than being ruined by the vaccine, i would have never given it to her!
Thank you to all for the great comments.
Gertie and Carol, I think often about the point you make. What is your thought about vaccinating for extremely rare diseases only when the disease is on the rise or prior to traveling to countries where the disease persists?
I totally understand your dilemma and have two comments that probably won’t help mothers like you trying to do best by their children and the greater good, but all information helps form educated opinions. First, my brother-in-law contracted polio in the 1950s because his parents didn’t believe in polio shots, and wherever shots are discontinued, diseases seem to return. The return of whooping cough in the U.S. is a good example, and polio could be next. Second, after years of hearing from scientists and the dental industry that mercury in fillings isn’t harmful, recent studies show that there is danger after all and dentists are now encouraged to use alternatives to amalgam, which contains 50% mercury. As a grandmother, my advice is to research every vaccination, evaluate the risks, and make informed choices, realizing that there is not a perfect choice in every instance. It sounds like that is exactly what you are advocating. Thanks for a great article.
Thank you so much for this post. I am also choosing an alternative vaccination schedule for my child and find it unbelievable that I’ve been ridiculed for it. The CDC’s recommended schedule is just that–RECOMMENDED. I’m choosing what I feel to be a safer route for my child by separating his vaccinations out further than they recommend. If in the distant future some research comes out that states it was all for nothing, well, I’d still rather be safe than sorry.