Comments on: Midwife Commits Suicide After Baby's Death

By: replica handbag

replica handbag — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 03:09:52 +0000

A real tragedy,I hope such things will not happen again.

By: Place

Place — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 12:28:51 +0000

I am very sorry Mr Naish for your loss. Unfortunately this isn’t an isolated incident. We would expect the ‘carers to be cared for’, but in my experience (I am not on permanent staff simply nursebank and work mostly in industry), many problems are CAUSED by the people who should be caring for us. The hierachy got their positions not from being good managers necessarily, many do not have ‘management’ or ‘people skills (as in managing staff)’. I’ve seen serious bullying by supervisors and managers which reduce staff confidence and don’t allow good practise, staff are afraid to speak up for wrong doings or injustice which can reduce patient care and totally demorilise staff and there is apparently no where to go. The NHS wouldn’t survive as a business using their current skills! A brilliant midwife doesn’t necessaily make a brilliant manager – we should be nurturing and holding onto people and allowing them to be round pegs in round holes and square ones.

By: Richard Rumbelow

Richard Rumbelow — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 21:24:33 +0000

Dear Thomas Naish, My long term partner Matthew aged 31 was a Radiographer at a NHS hospital, he was perfoming a procedure he had recently qualified in and unfortunately the patient reacted servely and died. He told me he had not been told about that this could happen in some very rare cases and he felt responsible for her death. Six days later he was late home from his shift so I started to worry and rung round friends, family and his department and decided to visit the hospital to check he wasn’t a sleep as he had done two 14hr night shifts almost back to back, within his xray department his work friend and I checked around and found a room locked without the key hanging up and asked security to open the door to find Matthew had taken his life. Now 5weeks on I feel so let down by the NHS I feel this could have been prevented with the right support. I feel mylife has now ended also but unfortunately my anguish and sorrow will be with me until we are together again.

I do hope hope they learn from this tragedy, kind respects to you and your family,

A very broken lost soul, Richard.

By: Aruna Dawda

Aruna Dawda — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 18:27:56 +0000

Thomas; I am a retired midwife,feel your pain of loosing a daughter especially at this time of year.I went through similar experience last year ,felt very lonely, unsupported by the system,had no-one to turn to except few good friends as I could not talk to anyone in case of being judged,went through suicidal thoughts every night and sobbed myself to sleep.

I am writing this in a hope to make some sense out of it,and perhaps out there someone is listening to my pain and silent tears,I have forgiven them but cannot forget what happened.

By: ian johns

ian johns — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 13:18:33 +0000

I was very shocked to read of this tragedy.

Hopefully, this fine young girls death will lead to a reappraisal of the duty we all owe to the people who care for us.

By: Kristy

Kristy — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 15:40:51 +0000

This is absolutely heartbreaking! My first baby was born at home with a wonderful midwife and I’m planning a second homebirth for this upcoming March. However, I can’t for the life of me understand why such a critical detail was left out of the charts??? This just breaks my heart, not only for mother and child, but for the caring midwife who was left in a terrible situation. Just awful!

By: Sarah Stewart

Sarah Stewart — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 05:00:30 +0000

Thomas: I am a midwife and up to 12 months ago, was a midwifery educator. I am deeply sorry for your loss and really feel for you, your family and the family of the deceased baby.

Unfortunately, I do believe that we as health professionals have to take a lot of the blame for incidents like this. How supportive of each other are we? How do we care for the young midwives that we work with? Personally, I still think we do a very good job of ‘eating our young’.

And then there’s the expectations of society – so incredibly high – so unforgiving of human mistakes.

We live in times of huge pressure. Midwives are particularly vulnerable to public scrutiny, litigation and ridicule. After nearly 30 years of being a clinical midwife, I am in the throes of hanging up my rubber gloves. I am no longer prepared to put myself in the way of events that have been described here.

By: don_dapper (Andrew Saffrey)

don_dapper (Andrew Saffrey) — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 04:49:09 +0000

Midwife Commits Suicide After Baby’s Death – http://ecochildsplay.com/2009/12/10/midwife-commits-suicide-after-babys-death/

By: Jennifer Lance

Jennifer Lance — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 01:00:26 +0000

Thomas, it means so much that you left a comment on this post. I cannot imagine the heartbreak you must feel, and you must be so proud of your daughter for becoming a midwife and caring so deeply.

By: Thomas Naish

Thomas Naish — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 23:40:09 +0000

I am Theresa’s father.

After all the things that I have looked at since my daughters death, it gives me great concern that Theresa is not alone.

Doctors, Midwifes and Nurses are more likely to commit suicide, or have a breakdown. In Canada when a similar situation occurs, reassuring help is immediately applied.

Something needs to be done, for our special carers – to be given care themselves.

I hope that my daughters tragedy will shake the NHS up, and no one should suffer in silence like this. Lessons should be learnt but I doubt it though.

Thomas