We all know that every little girl is going to become a woman someday. There are those of us who wish that day would stay far away and there are those who embrace and celebrate the transition from childhood to adulthood.
For some reason, having my oldest daughter turned eight was difficult for me. I looked at this blond haired, blue eyed, angel and realized she is quickly going to be taller than I am and that she is now becoming an independent being. I was devastated. Then I started sweating… at what point do I start talking to her about PUBERTY? For crying out loud, she is eight. When I looked around our community I realized that some girls need this information by 8 or 9 while others don’t until 13 or later. The last thing I want is my child to enter the world of becoming a woman without being informed.
So, I set out on a mission to prepare her (and myself). Thankfully there are a lot of good books out there, so grab one (or several) that you’ve read through and get ready. Decide on the age and how much you want to cover. We’ve started with the basics and I have the kit on hand to bring out when the time comes.
Some book suggestions:
The Wonderful Way Babies Are Made (Christian perspective)
Once you have chosen a book to help explain puberty, make a kit. If you aren’t eco minded, there are plenty of sample kits available from popular feminine product manufacturers. But for those of us who want to pass on protecting our planet in all ways, we must make create our own starter kit.
If you are the female parent, think back to your own experience at this age and try to put yourself back in those shoes. If you are a male parent, arm yourself (and maybe grab a few extra books). I don’t believe in assigning the task to a female friend or family member because let’s face it, there will be times when you must stock the cabinet or deal with PMS. Showing your daughter that you are comfortable having this conversation with her will go along way to building a strong relationship for both Mothers and Fathers.
So, you’ve found a book, now what? Decide on supply style, cloth, reusable or natural disposable options. Or opt for a full kit that will allow your daughter to choose the style that she is most comfortable with (this is my recommendation). Consider your daughters lifestyle, if she swims or dances then internal protection is necessary unless she is going to abstain from activities while menstruating.
1 package mini pads (liners)
1 package maxi pads
1 box applicator free tampons
I package feminine wipes
Provide a carry pouch for fresh products and one for used items if opting for cloth. Also be sure to carve out a special place in the restroom where her supplies will be kept. In the beginning you will need to help check the stock to make sure she always has fresh products available.
Now you are ready to embark on exploring puberty with your daughter. Read the book together (and be sure you’ve read it before hand so there are no surprises). If your daughter is older, already showing signs of puberty (slight breast growth, shaping of waist, body hair growth), or near the age you were when puberty started, then go ahead and bring out the kit now. I’ve put my kit away to bring out when the timing is right because my daughter is eight and is not showing signs of development.
Be sure that you cover more than the basics of menstruation (which the book you chose will assist with!). Also cover the importance of staying clean to prevent odor and infection. If you use deodorant, now is probably the time to cover this as well. Be sure to explain skin changes and face washing, as this will become even more important in the coming years.
Once you introduce the menstruation kit to your daughter, encourage her to take it out and play with it. Let her open a tampon and soak it in water, pour fluid on a pad, even practice putting pads in and out of undies. Talk about discrete disposal (and provide a closed soaking tub for cloth). This will allow her to feel comfortable and to be empowered when her time comes. Tears on the first day of menstruation doesn’t have to happen!
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