Thomas Beatie was born a woman. “She” turned to “he” through sex-reassignment surgery and hormone treatment, but kept the uterus. Good thing for his family, too, as his wife Nancy was unable to give birth.
The family made news last year when they went on Oprah and in the LGBT magazine The Advocate to announce his pregnancy with the couple’s first child, a girl. They said they made the pregnancy public because,
Hiding a pregnant man is like hiding an 800-pound gorilla. Nancy and I wanted to tell our story from our own mouths before it got out.
Early morning on June 9, the family welcomed a baby boy through natural childbirth. His wife Nancy will breastfeed the child, as she did with their daughter. (Because natural birthing is so fabulous, even men want to do it!)
So how did they do it?
Thomas Beatie was born Tracy Lagondino, and was once even a Miss Teen Hawaii USA finalist. The beauty dated males through her teen years, but in her 20s, didn’t feel like her gender was female. She started male treatment, had the surgery to remove her breasts, and married Nancy. She even had her gender legally reassigned, so their relationship is legal as man and wife and not as a married lesbian couple.
After their first child was born, they spoke with Barbara Walters on 20/20:
Sexuality is completely different than your gender. I felt more comfortable being the male gender.
While the couple tried for children, Thomas went off the testosterone. The logistics? They actually did the “turkey baster” method. Beatie used donor sperm and Nancy inseminated him with a device she said was like a syringe without the needle. They bought it from a veterinarian and it is typically used to feed birds.
When their daughter was born, Nancy cut the cord. For the newest addition, both dad and son are reportedly healthy.
Of course, many people don’t agree with the couple’s life choices. Nine different OBs refused to help them conceive. And since coming out in public with the first pregnancy, they received hate mail and death threats. The family still receives anonymous hateful messages. Not to mention the rants you’ll find online.
I think that people are not used to seeing the image of a pregnant man. And it’s causing a lot of people to think. … I used my female reproductive organs to become a father.
But they feel that they are a normal family. They live in a neighborhood in Oregon. They want the freedom to live peacefully and happily. Mom breastfeeds, dad changes diapers. They love and care for their children. The only difference is that mom got dad pregnant!
You can find a clip of the “Pregnant Man’s Diary” on YouTube (which does not embed per request).
Image: Nancy and Thomas Beatie